Rising Strong by Brene Brown

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Book #2- Rising Strong by Brene Brown ‪#‎100BooksChallenge2016‬

Favourite Take Aways

TEN GUIDEPOSTS FOR WHOLEHEARTED LIVING

1. Cultivating authenticity: letting go of what people think
2. Cultivating self-compassion: letting go of perfectionism
3. Cultivating a resilient spirit: letting go of numbing and powerlessness
4. Cultivating gratitude and joy: letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark
5. Cultivating intuition and trusting faith: letting go of the need for
certainty
6. Cultivating creativity: letting go of comparison
7. Cultivating play and rest: letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
8. Cultivating calm and stillness: letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle

9. Cultivating meaningful work: letting go of self-doubt and “supposed to”
10. Cultivating laughter, song, and dance: letting go of being cool and “always in control”

10-guideposts-for-wholehearted-living

  • Anne Lamott said, “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” We have the tendency to visualize an entire scenario or conversation or outcome, and when things don’t go the way we’d imagined, disappointment can become resentment. This often happens when our expectations are based on outcomes we can’t control.
  • The opposite of scarcity is not abundance; the opposite of scarcity is simply enough.
  • Yes, there can be no innovation, learning, or creativity without failure. But failing is painful. It fuels the “shouldas and couldas,” which means judgment and shame are often lying in wait. Yes, I agree with Tennyson, who wrote, “ ’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
  • Vulnerability—the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome—is the only path to more love, belonging, and joy.
  • Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.
  • Daring is not saying, “I’m willing to risk failure.” Daring is saying, “I know I will eventually fail and I’m still all in.” Fortune may favor the bold, but so does failure.

“form-storm-norm-perform” cycle.

  • When group or team first comes together (form), it’s often rocky for a time while members figure out the dynamics (storm)
  • At some point, the group finds its groove (norm) and starts to make headway (perform). Storm occupies the middle space. It’s not only a dark and vulnerable time, but also one that’s often turbulent. People find all kinds of creative ways to resist the dark, including taking issue with each other.
  • The opposite of recognizing that we’re feeling something is denying our emotions. The opposite of being curious is disengaging. When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us. Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened.
  • It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly;…who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.

 

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