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Trauma Bond vs Healthy Bond.

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Our relationships determine the direction and how far we go in life. At the root of all our issues is how we manage our relationships with other humans, situations and things. We stay in toxic/abusive relationships that are not helping us fulfil our purpose because it is all we have ever known, the familiar, which is the root of family. Family should always be there for you. Right? But the reality of life is that your so-called family might switch up on you at some point. They accuse you of changing, feeling superior, and becoming condescending and arrogant. Your family is not necessarily a bloodline; it is how people treat you during the hard times that shows who your true family and friends are. As the saying goes, we know our friends during adversity, and our friends know us during prosperity.

Most of us stay in toxic relationships due to our trauma/misplaced sympathetic bond with our abusers because they are familiar, and as humans, we move towards the path of least resistance. We are scared of being alone; hence, we people-please, live our lives on autopilot, not rocking the boat. It is better to be alone and healthy than among dysfunctional, unhealthy humans abusing us emotionally, psychologically and otherwise. It is tough leaving toxic relationships as the chemical imbalance and trauma bond make us stuck with our abuser. Still, by educating yourself about these unhealthy relationship dynamics, you can free yourself from these bonds.