We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds.
We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds. All other fears are fears we picked up growing up, we can, therefore, unlearn all our fears through self-discipline and commitment to follow through.
We all fear something, you can let it drive you or cripple you, The choice is yours, you have to face your fears, doubt yourself if you have to but don’t fall for your fear. You would never have a problem-free period of life, the majority of life is suffering at one point or the other but you have to do deal with it. Your FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real, your fear is in your head and you have to face it with courage.
“I once saw an article in the Saturday Evening Post that talked about fear. It said that many”:
People fear dying in a plane crash, yet the odds against that happening are 250,000 to one. A person is more likely to be kicked to death by a donkey than to die in a plane crash. –
People are also afraid of being murdered, yet a person is eight times more likely to die while playing a sport than to be shot by a stranger.
People fear dying on the operating table during surgery, yet they are twenty times more likely to die in an automobile accident. At the same time, millions of people hope and pray they will win the lottery. The truth is that they are three times more likely to be struck by lightning.
People’s fears and worries are often overblown. Many times they’re not based in reality. Yet these worries stop them from being productive and successful just the same.
The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.—Bertrand Russell
According to an African proverb, when there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm. If you think you can, if you think you can’t, you are also right. The battle is in the mind, to achieve your dreams and aspirations, you need to have unparalleled self-confidence in yourself. If you are competent and not confident, success would elude you but if you are competent and confident at the same time, you would become unstoppable.
If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. – Henry David Thoreau
Do not doubt yourself, for where doubt resides, confidence cannot. Do not neglect yourself, for with neglect comes loss. Do not imagine yourself to be less than you are, nor more than you are, but seek always to become all of which you are capable. Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or discourteous, for both are characteristics adopted by those who seek to cover their weaknesses.
If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream. If you want to hold on to your dream, then be prepared for a battle to change your habits because a bad habit never goes away by itself.
Bad habits are easy to form, but hard to break. Good habits are hard to form, but easy to live with. Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities. Your life is a summation of the good and bad habits you have formed over the years, it crystallizes into your ideals, your identity, and reality.
A habit is an idea that is fixed in a person’s subconscious mind that causes them to do something without any conscious thought.
Don’t be a disciplined person. Be a person of powerful habits and use selected discipline to develop them.
Build one habit at a time. Success is sequential, not simultaneous. No one actually has the discipline to acquire more than one powerful new habit at a time. Super-successful people aren’t superhuman at all; they’ve just used selected discipline to develop a few significant habits. One at a time. Overtime.
Give each habit enough time. Stick with the discipline long enough for it to become routine. Habits, on average, take 66 days to form. Once a habit is solidly established, you can either build on that habit or, if appropriate, build another one
Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do). -Stephen R. Covey
Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.- Hal Borland
Success in any endeavor requires perseverance and persistence, the ability to continue to do something even though it is difficult. For example, it is normal for an aspiring writer to get loads of rejection letters before getting published; it is like a rite of passage to becoming a published writer. What distinguishes the successful writer from the unsuccessful writer is that the successful writer continued to write even though they were not published yet; they continued to horn their craft, they persisted, and they eventually succeeded.
Persistence is one of the vital keys to succeeding in any task or profession. Don’t Quit, Press On, Keep pushing, if you persist, you would eventually succeed. Persistence is the secret to success.
Here are some great quotes on persistence:
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge
“Not realizing what you want is a problem of knowledge.Not pursuing what you want is a problem of motivation.Not achieving what you want is a problem of persistence.” – John C. Maxwell
Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not. – Elbert Hubbard,
It takes self-discipline to follow through on your commitments, forming new habits, having a daily routine, setting goals, and executing on ideas. Without self-discipline, achieving our most significant goals can not be made. It takes self-discipline to plan, stay consistent and run towards your ideals and aspirations. Like Les Brown often says, if you do what is hard, your life would be easy, but if you do what is easy, your life would be hard.
Staying consistent with goals such as running a marathon, 100 Book Challenge, 50 Audiobooks Challenge, or stretching targets like skydiving or climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro requires a lot of self-discipline with consistency and determination, they are all achievable goals.
Here are some great quotes on self discipline:
“The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do. They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.” – E.M. Gray
“With self-discipline most anything is possible.” -Theodore Roosevelt
“Winners embrace hard work. They love the discipline of it, the trade-off they’re making to win. Losers, on the other hand, see it as a punishment. And that’s the difference.” – Lou Holtz
“A disciplined mind leads to happiness, and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering.” – Dalai Lama
“I could only achieve success in my life through self-discipline, and I applied it until my wish and my will became one.” – Nikola Tesla
Dream as if you‘ll live forever. Live as if you‘ll die today. – James Dean
What are you going to do with your ONE precious life? This life is not a drill; it could end any time without warning. We hear it all the time, “Life is Short,” but we don’t live our lives like it could end anytime sooner or later we are all going to DIE. Most of us think we have time, and we live in “Someday Isles.” We say ‘Someday I’ll start my blog, ‘Someday I’ll start the business, Someday I’ll do this and do that but the only time we have is NOW.
We all realize the brevity of life differently; it may be through the death of a parent or a sibling, the diagnosis of a terminal illness or a life-shattering event. In Life, You are either heading to a storm, going through a storm, or heading to a storm. Tupac died as 25, John Lenon at 40, Kobe Bryant at 41 and Micheal Jackson at 50, you and I do not know how long or short our life is going to be hence the need for a sense of urgency.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift––that is why it is called the present.
Do your best, add value to people while you are here, and have a sense of urgency as your life could end anytime. Follow your Bliss, dare to live your highest life possible, Dream, Live, and Love. As clergyman, Newman, John Henry once quipped, “Fear not that thy life shall come to an end, but rather fear that it shall never have a beginning.”
Here are some great quotes on having a sense of urgency:
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.- Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of the hallmarks of becoming a high achiever is unshakeable self-belief, betting on yourself, focusing on your goals, and believing in your dreams. A confident and self-assured individual would always beat the talented person that’s unsure. The power of self-belief in achieving your goals can not be overemphasized but you have to be ready to pay the price in order to be able to win the prize. If you think you can, you are right. If you think you can’t, you are also right.
If you don’t believe in yourself no one else would cos there would always be doubters and naysayers, but you have to lace up, develop a tough skin, work your ass out, follow your bliss and stake your claim for your greatness.
Two things define you: your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.
When executing a project or living through the gig called life, having patience, trusting the process, and seeing the big picture is very important. Having patience when the going gets tough can be very hard and draining, but trusting the process is the key. As the saying goes, tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Whether it is starting a blog, running a business, getting a promotion, building an online platform, they all require patience and focus on the big picture.
You have to trust the process.
Here are some great quotes on patience:
Trust the process. Your time is coming. Just do the work and the results will handle themselves. – Tony Gaskins
According to Psychology Today, Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly resilient people find a way to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving toward their goals.
Resilience is one of those skill sets that we all need to master in order to navigate the vicissitudes of life because you are either in a storm, going through a storm, or entering the next storm. It is not a matter of IF but a matter of when. Been resilient is what would take you through the trying times, remember thought times don’t last but tough people do.
One of the hallmarks of leadership is the ability to be courageous in times of crisis as Martin Luther once quipped the ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong
The moment you come to the realization that no one is coming to the rescue, whatever would go wrong would go wrong, quit blaming anyone for your challenges & tribulations; and you take full responsibility for your life that is when your life finally changes.
Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself-and be lenient to everybody else.― Henry Ward Beecher
Here are top quotes on taking full personal responsibility for your life:
There are two primary choices in life: To accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. – Dr. Denis Waitley
Until you accept responsibility for your life, someone else runs your life – Orin Woodward
You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.- Jim Rohn
Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility in the final analysis. The one quality that all successful people have is the ability to take on responsibility. – Michael Korda
Complaining is like bad breath. We notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes out of our own.
We all have the tendency to gripe, complain, make excuses and blame everyone except ourselves. It is human nature to complain about everything under the sun, we rant, complain, rage, get angry, and do anything to get it off our chest. All this is learned behavior which can be unlearned but it comes with the awareness that these habits need to be worked on to get us to the next level.
Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to, when all they need is one reason why they can. – Willis Whitney
Here are some top quotes on complaining, excusing and blaming:
If an optimist views the glass as half full and a pessimist views it as half empty, a complainer will tell you that the water in the glass is probably poisoned.
Having faith that things would always work out for your good is very hard, especially in trying times. Murphy’s Law (Whatever would go wrong would always go wrong) would most times prevail but you have to be strong and have faith in yourself and the universe.
Here are top inspiring quotes on Faith:
Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.- Saint Augustine
Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. – D. Elton Trueblood
To one who has faith, no explanation is necessary. To one without faith, no explanation is possible. – Thomas Aquinas
Man can live 40 days without food, three days without water, eight minutes without air, but only one second without hope.
When the world around you gets tough like they often do, hope is what we hang on to. Here are top inspiring quotes to help you stay motivated in trying times.
They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.― Tom Bodett.
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.– Helen Keller
We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. – Martin Luther King
Youth is not entirely a time of life; it is a state of mind. Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old by deserting their ideals.… You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair.– General Douglas MacArthur
If you can control a man’s thinking you do not have to worry about his action. When you determine what a man shall think you do not have to concern yourself about what he will do. If you make a man feel that he is inferior, you do not have to compel him to accept an inferior status, for he will seek it himself. If you make a man think that he is justly an outcast, you do not have to order him to the back door. He will go without being told; and if there is no back door, his very nature will demand one.― Carter Godwin Woodson, The Mis-Education of the Negro
What one thing do all successful people have in common? What one thing separates those who go to the top from those who never seem to get there? The answer: Good Thinking! Those who embrace good thinking as a lifestyle understand the relationship between their level of thinking and their level of progress. They also realize that to change their lives, they must change their thinking.
You will become as small as your controlling desire, as great as your dominant aspiration – James Allen
Real thinking is hard as most of us would rather DIE than do it. Here are the top 20 quotes on thinking that could help stimulate you into thinking:
Two percent of the people think, three percent think they think, and ninety-five percent would rather die than think.- George Bernard Shaw