“The goal of recovery is learning self-care, learning to free ourselves from victimization, and not to blame ourselves for past experiences. The goal is to arm ourselves so we do not continue to be victimized due to the shame and unresolved feelings from the original victimization.”
Melody Beattie is an American author who writes on codependency and strategies for dealing with codependent relationships. Her books have helped shape my thought on codependency and provided tools for recovery, healing and self-care. Her books include: Codependent No More, Beyond Codependency, The New Codependency, and The Language of Letting Go.
“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that other person’s behavior.”
In her book, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, American author Melody Beattie shares the following illuminating thoughts on self-care.
“The middle ground of self-care lies between the two extremes of controlling others and allowing them to control us. We can walk that ground gently or assertively, but in confidence that it is our right and responsibility.” – The Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie